Fragmented Fridays

Usually, I am extremely resistant to change, but for some reason I am really open to it right now.
I watch the ripples change their size
But never leave the stream
Of warm impermanence
So the days float through my eyes
But still the days seem the same
And these children that you spit on
As they try to change their worlds
Are immune to your consultations
They’re quite aware of what they’re going through

                                -David Bowie, Changes
I went ahead and bought so that I could get rid of the blogspot in my url. I know! It’s like I expect to be doing this blogging thing for awhile.
Then I went and got myself a new email I had resisted it for the longest time because my regular email is on yahoo and I don’t want to change and who needs to check so many emails, but guess what? I can have all the emails forwarded to yahoo and I can even reply with the gmail address from yahoo. Who knew?
I went to the “temp” job I’ve been going to where I’m allowed to bring Put Pie and I was told that I might be able to work there for a whole year. Apparently, there is a program funded by the City of San Francisco specifically geared to mom’s returning to work. My job can’t afford to hire me for a year, but if I qualify for the program the city will pay for it! Wish me luck. (Proof again that the Universe is abundant. I never fail to be amazed at the things that find me.)
Okay, I am giving myself a challenge. From now until October 30th I am going to exercise EVERY.SINGLE.DAY! Yup that’s right. Now don’t get all worried. I’m talking about 20 minutes a day. Not much, but more than I currently manage. How am I making myself accountable, you ask? Good question! Well, I’m using you for one, I’ll keep you posted every Friday. Big deal, you say. Oh ye of little faith, there is more. For everyday that I do not exercise, I will be charging myself five dollars and at the end of my challenge if I have paid for not exercising I will use the money to finance a micro-loan to an entrepreneur through Kiva. (If you haven’t heard of Kiva, please check them out. You can do a lot of good with as little as $25 and it’s not a donation, it’s a loan so you can loan it to someone else when it gets paid back.) 
I came to a realization this week that I spend far too much time in front of the computer. My beautiful daughter has taken to screeching when she sees me go for the laptop. I am ashamed and I realize that I need to limit myself. I have decided that her time is her time and I shouldn’t continually try to sneak “my time” into her time. I enjoy my online life and do not want to stop, but I will either have to get up early or wait until she has gone to sleep. I really do feel bad that she has had to find a way to tell me without words how much she hates it when Mami’s face is pointed at the computer. Today, I really made an effort (it’s hard, it’s an addiction) and it really paid off. It was even easier to put her to bed.  She is the most beautiful thing in my life and deserves the best of me; I intend on giving it to her.
Have a beautiful weekend!

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  • unknownmami

    Alicia @ One Mum’s Musings

    – Congrats on joining the dot com community.- Fingers crossed about the job.- I’ll be watching for your exercise posts. Love the payment idea.-
    I am exactly the same with my internet habits. I think it really is an
    addiction. I have to limit my usage to when the kids are asleep aswell.

    October 8, 2009 10:24 PM


    Good for you making all of these major changes in your life! i need to do the same thing about exercising! DESPERATELY.Good for you making more time for your daughter as well (and good for her!)Happy friday!

    October 8, 2009 10:25 PM


    You go, girl! You know that you are my inspiration. Fingers crossed on
    the job and the exercising (and puttng down the computer(. I am
    strugging with all those issues myself.

    October 8, 2009 10:37 PM


    my kids have each complained to me about the computer, I completely understand.

    October 8, 2009 11:16 PM


    I understand, I am committing to the 20 minutes of exercising as of the
    morning. I try not to spend too much time on the computer. Doing wedding
    slides right now and getting a slide ready for a lady that is planning
    her own funeral, she wants to be pprepared. I am feeling a little
    overwhelmed….I do hope your job works out, fingers crossed. take care.

    October 9, 2009 1:38 AM

    Mom of Three

    Your little darling deserves your time. Although I have to say, I know
    the addiction and I’m guilty of the same thing. I take lots of breaks in
    between to play though… so it takes me forever to write a post. Or
    read a post. ;-)I am all for your exercise program! I’ll be your exercise buddy! I’ve been meaning to start. And yes, the universe IS abundant! May you richly receive its blessings!

    October 9, 2009 2:00 AM

    Sara Elizabeth Bonds

    Congrats on the dot com and new email!I need to take the same challenge and work out. Argh!I
    know what you mean about the computer. If we had kids, I would probably
    close my blogs down in all honesty. They take up so much of my time
    that I cannot imagine I would be paying enough attention to my kids as
    much as I am on. I give you props for making that change to give your
    daughter more of yourself.

    October 9, 2009 2:18 AM


    You’re absolutely right about getting hooked on the internet – it’s all too easy to while away an alarming amount of time.Sounds
    like great news about the job. I hope it all works out for you. It’s
    probably coming about precisely *because* you have opened up your world
    to the possibility of change. Good for you. :)

    October 9, 2009 2:22 AM

    4 Lettre Words

    Congrats on the job opportunity and good luck with the exercising!

    October 9, 2009 3:38 AM

    Tammy Howard

    My screen saver says: Never let that which matters the least take time
    from that which matters the most. Just sayin’. I hear ya loud and
    clear.This is by far the best exercise vow I have ever heard/read. This is as win/win as it gets.You rock the Casbah, Miss Domain-ownin’ Mami.

    October 9, 2009 3:41 AM


    Yes. The universe is abundant.That’s awesome about the job.I promised my kids I’d only blog before 7a.m. and after 9p.m. HarumpfHave a great weekend

    October 9, 2009 3:42 AM


    Stopping by from Mrs. 444’s blog.Good luck with the exercising..i so desperately need to get into shape. Great news about the job too.enjoy your weekend

    October 9, 2009 5:21 AM

    Ocean Girl

    I so look forward to your exercise posts. I have a feeling they are going to be funnniie – please don’t get me wrong :)

    October 9, 2009 5:30 AM


    Good luck with the exercising. I have good intentions and you know where that leads… :)

    October 9, 2009 7:40 AM

    Lisa Anne

    I need to start exercising too. I keep telling myself I’ll start
    tomorrow, but this blog stuff just consumes me. I need to find out how
    to take the blogspot out of my URL too!

    October 9, 2009 8:02 AM

    Joanna Jenkins

    What an awesome exercise challenge! And congrats on “owning” your name.I left you something on my blog.See you Sunday.xo

    October 9, 2009 9:05 AM

    Brian Miller

    best wishes for all the changes…i have to put the laptop down at
    times…my boys usually let me know when. have a marvelous weekend!

    October 9, 2009 9:05 AM


    Good for you!! I´m so glad for your daughter!!

    October 9, 2009 9:59 AM

    Stacy (the Random Cool Chick)

    Change can be a good thing! :) Congrats on joining the dot-com genre (I
    have one, too, but haven’t clicked that thingy to make it coordinate
    with Blogger because Blogger makes me nervous with all their snafus…I
    see it’s working for yours, though, so I think I can click now! *grin!*)
    Keeping my fingers crossed on your job – hope it works out perfectly! :)Good luck with the workout challenge – I love your idea, and like Tammy said, it’s definitely a win/win! :)These
    moments with your beautiful little one are fleeting – so definitely
    take them when you can get them…if that means stepping away from the
    computer, that’s exactly what you need to do. Your bloggy friends
    totally understand (especially because most of us have ‘been there’ and
    are there at times) and we’ll be here whenever you are! :)Happy FF! :)

    October 9, 2009 10:03 AM

    Yelena R.

    Congrats on the .com address! That’s so exciting! Also, good luck with
    your job and have a wonderful weekend as well. Oh, also I have some
    shots for “Sundays in my City” so I will probably contribute this week

    October 9, 2009 10:33 AM

    The girl with the flour in her hair

    My kids act up twice as much when I’m on the computer. The baby wants to
    be held twice as much when I sit at the computer. I’m also working on
    limiting my time. It’s so freakin’ hard!

    October 9, 2009 10:49 AM

    Green-Eyed Momster

    I feel guilt about computer time too. Especially now that I’m not
    working. I should be putting makeup on so that I can go out and run
    errands today. Yet, I sit here and type and read blogs.Hope you have a super weekend. I have my fingers crossed about the job for you. Big hugs!!

    October 9, 2009 11:04 AM


    thanks for the kiva info – I’ll check that out.all the best

    October 9, 2009 11:14 AM

    2 Toddlers and Me

    Congrats on the dotcom. It looks so professional! I debated about the
    email too and you’re right it really isn’t that difficult to suck
    everything into one account. Congrats on the job opportunity! How
    wonderful! I had a hard time for awhile balancing this blogging
    thing with spending time with the kids. It just feels like there is not
    enough time in the day, that’s for sure! Sounds like you’ve made the
    right choice though and everyone will be happier for it. Although,
    getting up earlier has never made me happy. :)

    October 9, 2009 11:40 AM


    Best of luck with the new exercise program! I have heard of Kiva and it’s a very cool concept!I’ve
    thought about going .com but I don’t think I have enough readers to
    make it worth it although I would like to do it now because my blog name
    is still available…decisions, decisions.I love gmail, congrats on your new gmail account!I hope you are approved for the working moms programs…that sounds awesome!

    October 9, 2009 11:51 AM


    so keeping my fingers crossed for you on the job-front!Your precious lil one must come first…they grow up TOO fasthope you have a wonderful weekend!

    October 9, 2009 2:32 PM

    Crazee Juls

    How cool that you can bring your little one along… too cool I think, and
    congrats on joining the world of .com’ers :) I wonder if I’ll ever do
    that? I don’t know where to begin. Anyhoo… have a great weekend!

    October 9, 2009 2:41 PM

    !!The Obnoxious SAHM!!

    my friend, my kids have the same reaction about my lap top. they have
    even gone as far as drawling mean pictures about me and the laptop. LOL i am a horrible mother.

    October 9, 2009 3:41 PM

    Amy Amy Bo Bamey

    Thanks for reminding me about Kiva….been wanting to check that out.I just switched my blog over to a .com too. Gotta open up a gmail acct too. Have a Great Weekend!

    October 9, 2009 3:54 PM

    Jenni Jiggety

    My kids have been known to gently close the laptop lid on my fingers as I type…

    October 9, 2009 4:35 PM


    You touched me with your realization of needing to get your priorities
    in order. Our children are blessings; we need to give them everything we
    can while they are living with us, and I know your pain of setting that
    boundary. It’s tough! I wish you luck. Luckily, she’s easy to turn to
    when you turn away from the computer. Still, I wish I could babysit for
    you :)

    October 9, 2009 5:31 PM


    I think it’s a wonderful thing that you took the time to be with your
    daughter instead of online. Isn’t that how we all should be? Ok, not me
    because I don’t have little ones. I have all the time in the world to be
    online, lolI so hope you get the funding for that job!

    October 9, 2009 5:43 PM


    Wow those are a lot of changes. I’m with you on the computer thing. My
    rule is that if they’re on (awake, around), the computer isn’t. Unless
    I’m working, and they know they cna’t bother me when I’m working.And speaking of which — congrats on your job (almost). Fingers crossed for you!

    October 9, 2009 6:01 PM


    It is hard to stay away from the computer I know!! It’s so worth it though. Congrats on the job and good luck!

    October 9, 2009 6:39 PM

    Bee and Rose

    I am thinking of taking the .com plunge myself:)You are totally inspiring me to get off my tushy and move it! 20 min is just what I need!Thanks for reminding me that the Universe really is abundant and that sometimes we just need to open ourselves to that!

    October 9, 2009 6:53 PM


    I came to a similar realization in terms of my girls and my “time” on
    the computer. It’s a hard addiction to break, but like you said,
    definitely worth it. You can do it! (And then please pass along some

    October 9, 2009 7:07 PM


    We are living parallel lives on some levels. My 14 month old often
    screeches when I’m on the computer too ! I’ve been more conscious of it
    and am limiting my online time too. I am sure the job will come
    through. Like you said, the world is abundant, we just have to open our
    eyes. I love the idea about KIVA. I’ve heard of it, and will look
    into it. I think I can afford to loan someone 25$. Incredible how
    little can make a huge difference to someone in need !

    October 9, 2009 7:31 PM


    You are very wise. And it sounds to me as if you know yourself and your world, and are making fabulous changes!

    October 9, 2009 8:09 PM

    Mama Kat

    Boy you’ve been busy this week!! I’m glad you bought your domain! :) You’re officially official. Congratulations!

    October 9, 2009 8:16 PM

    Helen McGinn

    I really hope you get the job funded for the year; sending you all the good karma I can. I
    don’t watch much tv and, although I like to read, it isn’t ever quiet
    enough round hear so the computer is my outlet but, like you, I’m
    limiting it as the kids like me to be vacant as opposed to the ‘in a
    minute…’ state of mind I can get into when sitting in front of this
    little square box. :O)

    October 10, 2009 3:41 AM


    Good luck on the exercise challenge!You have a lovely blog. I’d love ifwe both followed each other.Have a wonderful weekend!P.S.I found you through Steven Antony’s blog.

    October 10, 2009 4:15 AM


    Thanks for stopping by and commenting.I’m your new follower:)Thanks for following!Happy weekend !

    October 10, 2009 1:56 PM


    I am really, really, proud of you. On your own site, exercising and monkey time. good work!!

    October 10, 2009 2:06 PM


    Awesome changes! Good luck with the new job and .com! I am trying to
    change too so we’ll see if I get it done. Also trying to start a
    translating company but really dragging my heels…

    October 10, 2009 6:39 PM