It’s a fashion choice for her, it makes her happy and a little more excited about her day. I think it’s cute, but the other day El Qué Dirán tried to contaminate Put Pie via me.
For those of you that don’t know what El Qué Dirán is, Urban Dictionary defines it as:
The unspoken belief in latin-american culture that every person’s actions in society are subject to the scrutiny and criticism of every person they know. El Que Dirán is a way to regulate the behaviors of the fringes of Latin America, by concentrating the disapproval of their parents and friends through gossip.
Here’s what happened, we were getting ready to go out and Put Pie was wearing clean mismatched socks, I was about to open my mouth and tell her to put on a pair of matching socks when I stopped and asked myself…WHY? Why did she have to change her socks? The only reason for her to change her socks was that I was worried about El Qué Dirán.
What would people say or think when they saw my daughter with mismatched socks?
They would think that I was a careless parent that doesn’t pay enough attention to her child. That she doesn’t even have matching socks. That the poor thing has to dress herself even though she is so young.
Now of course, all of this stuff was unconscious until it wasn’t and when it became conscious, I’m happy to say that I didn’t give a rat’s a$$ about El Qué Dirán. I let my daughter wear her mismatched socks and didn’t say a word about it.
I don’t know how old I was when I was first infected with the concept of El Qué Dirán, but I do know that I fought against it, that I resented it, that it was ridiculously limiting and judgemental, that it was arbitrary and sometimes ugly. I also realize that I will not be able to keep Put Pie from catching a dose of El Qué Dirán forever, but I do not want to be the person that gives it to her.
For now, I want her to be blissfully unaware of El Qué Dirán. It’s not just about her socks, the other day we were walking home and she was hot so she took off her shirt and walked home shamelessly bare-chested and happy. These shameless days are limited, but for now they ARE and they are beautiful.
Do not be fooled into thinking that El Qué Dirán is exclusively a Latin American condition. Until there is a vaccine, you must just shake it off whenever you feel it.
So tell me are you are carrier of El Qué Dirán?