My husband takes care of our daughter one day a week while I go work outside of the home. It’s a win-win situation for me: I get to interact with adults alone one day a week and my husband has empathy for me the rest of the week.
Usually when Unknown Papi watches Put Pie, they drop me off at work and then come meet me for lunch. It’s a nice routine, but I can tell that Unknown Papi could use some different stimulation. When I take care of Put Pie if I get lonely and want to talk to an adult, I just go to the park and cruise for Mamis. I know tons of pick up lines, such as:
“We have that sweatshirt, too!”“How do you like your (insert brand name stroller here)?”“OMG! She/he is so cute! How old is she/he?”
You get the idea. Sometimes if I’m feeling particularly shy, I just dress my daughter up in something really cute and wait for other Mommies to approach us. It’s like catching flies with honey. It’s not as easy for Unknown Papi. Since the majority of care-givers at the playground are women, it can come off like Unknown Papi is just cruisin’ for women as opposed to cruisin’ for parents.
Yesterday, Unknown Papi, went to the DMV parking lot with his skateboard to get some exercise and there was a Daddy watching his child ride a bike. The child, who seemed to be around the same age as Put Pie, started watching Unknown Papi skate. Unknown Papi said, “How old is he?” The father answered, “She is 29 months old.”
Do you see what happened there? Classic rookie mistake. When in doubt of gender you have to look for clues or work around it. The child was riding a pink bike and wearing a pink helmet. Unknown Papi noticed, but didn’t want to stereotype and still thought the child looked like a boy. That’s when you do the work around. You smile, nod in the child’s direction, while asking the parent, “How old?”
When Unknown Papi came home and told me about the encounter, we laughed at his rookie mistake. Then he looks at me sheepishly and says, “I guess we have a man-date tomorrow.” What?! “Yeah, he’s supposed to call me at 9:00. I’m pretty sure he will” Well, look at that! Seems like Unknown Papi doesn’t need my advice on how to pick up Daddies, he does just fine on his own. I couldn’t be prouder.